Child Support Issues
The cost of a typical divorce usually goes far beyond just basic financial aspects when there are children involved. The children in a family weathering divorce suffer emotional wounds that often follow them into adulthood. While mom and dad battle it out over whose fault it was, whose needs went unmet most, and the problems involved with who will live where and with whom, the children may be unable to process the anger, stress, and hurtful words. They may internalize them and feel like they are ultimately to blame. Many children of divorce have difficulty developing healthy self-esteem and often grow up to repeat their parents’ mistakes.
Addressing the needs of the children requires both adults in the situation have a reasonable level of maturity, and the ability to step back and consider what is most important. Raising and rearing the next generation of functional, well-adjusted young people is of paramount importance, not just to society at large, but to the core family unit as well. No one wants more addictions, crime, or marital break-ups. Life is hard enough without the family suffering needless loss and tragedy.
Unrealistic expectations, entitlement, and resentment are often at the core of many couples’ decision to divorce. Sometimes one partner can make positive changes while the other remains dysfunctional. This might extend the length of the marriage even if the marriage itself does not improve. Marital counseling can often help people to see their part in a problem and stop the blame game.
If the marriage does dissolve, each state in the U.S. has different ways of calculating the amount of child support the wage earner must pay to the caregiver. Child support calculators take into consideration factors such as the number of children involved, the income of both the non-custodial parent and the custodial parent, the cost of daycare and health insurance for the dependents, and if there is alimony or child support being paid from a previous marriage for the children in question. Calculators usually don’t take into consideration joint custody situations and normally assume all children are living with the same parent.