Perhaps it is a side effect of celebrity divorces that causes the condition where ex-spouses can live in complete denial of reality and instead inhabit a world where they are absolved of any responsibilities other than to continue being perfectly wonderful and loving human beings. Such was definitely the case when we last visited the saga of Jesse James, the “Monster Garage” TV show star who became the focus of nationwide scorn last year for cheating on his movie star wife Sandra Bullock. James appeared on a radio show where he declared he had forgiven himself completely for cheating on Bullock with seven women during their marriage. When questioned, he said, “Oh yeah. I’m cool.” He also said that he really didn’t think he had done anything wrong in his relationship with Bullock. “The media portrayed it as this huge negative thing, but if anything I got more support from everybody else. Yes, I cheated on my wife, but so do a lot of other people.”
Now it appears the observations that James’ behavior and comments pointed to a sociopathic state of denial and that he and his new fiancÃ©e’ Kat Von D would probably be dealing with their own divorce before long, were spot on as now James and Kat Von D have already called off their own engagement. The couple appears to be splitting mutually and have blamed their break up on the difficulties of maintaining a long distance relationship as Kat films a TV show in California and James lives in Texas with his kids. James was quoted in People magazine saying “I’m so sad because I really love her, the distance between us was just too much.”
The recent announcement follows James’ exuberance earlier this year when he said that he couldn’t wait to make his life with Kat Von D, and that 2010 was actually the greatest year of his life. At the time he said “2010 was actually the best year of my life because I fell in love with my best friend. I have never met anyone so kind and loving and committed to making the world a better place every day. My love for her is beyond description. So honored that she said “˜yes.’ Growing old with her is going to be a blast!” Ms. Von D showed on sign of animosity when she stated in a recent Tweet that “I am no longer with Jesse, and out of respect for him, his family and myself, that’s all the info I’d like to share. Thanks for respecting that.”
Easy come, easy go. Money and celebrity status seem to make anything unpleasant, like a divorce, simply vanish into an amusing combination of reinvented history and unrealized good intentions. However, real life for real people is not quite as shallow as that, and in the real world there are real consequences for our actions, especially as they relate to others. Perhaps there are celebrities who do get the concept, but the ongoing antics of Mr. James and company show that it is certain that there are some who simply do not.