Divorce, Families & Children
In a perfect world every home would have two parents present in the household to raise a child. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work out as planned and divorce is a fact of life. However, statistics do show that children raised in a two-parent home almost always have fewer problems than those raised by a single parent. The Index of Leading Cultural Indicators keeps track of an alarming number of teen-related problems including pregnancies suicides, substance abuse, runaways, prison and much more. The statistics show there is an undeniable link in these occurrences and the collapse of families.
* Parenting is a time-consuming job.
It takes a huge amount of energy and time to raise a family. Often, parents are pulled in opposite directions in attempting to accommodate their children’s needs and schedules. When there’s only one parent in the home to juggle it all, sometimes it can be impossible to adequately meet everyone’s needs.
* Parents experiencing divorce are often angry.
If single parenting is the result of a divorce, there might be lingering respect and anger issues between the parents. Any stress in the home will be deflected onto the children, which spawns further unhappiness, restlessness and anxiety.
* Divorced parents may not parent the same.
There may be dissimilarities in how each parent opts to raise their children after a divorce. This can create confusion and frustration. Boundaries are important to children and having to move to a new home can breed insecurity. Parents under the same roof are more likely to share the same principles or are willing to make modifications.
* Two-parent families have fewer financial woes.
One of the biggest and most pressing concerns for single parents is their financial struggle. Many couples with children find ways to juggle schedules and budgets so that both can work. Even if only one parent works, running just one household is less expensive than separately running two.
* Children need both parents.
It may become necessary for a parent to move far away as the result of a divorce. When this happens, children will obviously miss the absent parent. They will also miss opportunities to develop a deeper relationship with that parent during the trials and triumphs of their childhood years.
There are myriad issues and problems that exist in society today, and families where two parents are present are no exception. Growing up can be difficult despite having a normal home with two parents present. It becomes far more difficult for children to make adjustments to life with only one parent when any number of other inevitable troubles is tossed into the mix. In post-divorce situations where raising children with two parents in the home is not possible, single parents will simply have to bear the burden as best as they can. There are a number of resources for single parents in every community through schools, churches and local governments. If you are a single parent you might want to look into what’s available in your area before the teen trouble begins.