Domestic Violence & Divorce
The stress and tension of divorce causing episodes of domestic violence is unfortunately all too common in the U.S. and Canada today. The statistics show that women are far more likely to be victims than men and some studies have estimated that as many as 30% of all divorces in some U.S. states will involve domestic violence of some kind.
A survey from Canada showed that about one in five women said marital breakdown was the cause of domestic violence in their relationships. The emotional and physical abuse is often the tipping point in a relationship and can take various forms such as economic abuse, threats against children, torture of a woman’s pets, and general insults hurled at women for any number of things. Today, it is estimated that over 1,000 women are killed by their spouses and partners each year in the United States alone. Women are guilty too, but less so as only about American 400 men are snuffed by their wives each year.
Sometimes it is the little things that cause stressed-out people to go over the edge and commit violent acts that get them into a whole new level of trouble. Once the line of physical violence has been crossed, it is impossible to go back in most cases. People, especially husbands, who thought their lives were bad because of a failed marriage, often succeed in making things far worse than they ever imagined once they resort to violence committed in a moment of anger. Losing half your assets and becoming suddenly single again may be a poor outcome, but losing everything including your freedom because you hurt someone and ended up in jail is a different matter altogether.
Such was the case in recently in Wisconsin where a man involved in a divorce got resentful about having to pay for food and sometimes take care of two cats that his wife had asked for in the divorce settlement. Steven Wehler told authorities in Janesville that he was tired of the cats keeping him awake, that they whined continually when wanting in the house and that he was also unable to keep up with bills and buy their food.
Wehler’s overall irritation with his divorce, his wife and the cats, led him to solve the problem by shooting the two cats and burying them in a compost pile when his wife was not home. Now, instead of simply facing a nasty divorce battle, Wehler faces three years in prison and a $10,000 fine under a felony charge for the mistreatment of animals. His fate proves that even a bad situation can be made much worse when domestic violence of any kind enters a marriage. The lesson for both potential victims and abusers as well might be to get some professional counseling and help for the stress of divorce before things can escalate to the point of violence.