Ex-Husbands in Denial
Some cheating husbands might regret having caused their own divorces, while others like Jesse James, the “Monster Garage” TV show star who became the focus of nationwide scorn last year for cheating on his movie star wife Sandra Bullock, have no problem completely absolving themselves of any wrongdoing. James appeared to have completely rewritten the saga of his divorce when he called into an Australian radio show to promote his book, “American Outlaw.” When he was asked whether he forgave himself for cheating on Bullock with seven women during their marriage, he replied, “Oh yeah. I’m cool.”
On the radio show, James showed the depth of his delusional thinking when he said he has no regrets and that he really doesn’t think he did anything wrong in his relationship with Bullock. “The media portrayed it as this huge negative thing, but if anything I got more support from everybody else. Yes, I cheated on my wife, but so do a lot of other people.”
James, who is now engaged to be married to his fourth wife, Kat Von D, added “Does that mean I’m the devil, or Satan? I don’t think so. I made a mistake and I’m sorry for it, but I owned up to it. I didn’t lie about it or do any kind of BS.” Jesse and Kat are due to wed sometime later this year. Despite the fact that 2010 was the year that several women came forward claiming they had affairs with him and he checked into rehab for sex addiction just before Bullock filed for divorce, James seemed totally remorseless when he said “2010 was actually the best year of my life because I fell in love with my best friend, an amazing woman who stood behind me when the world turned their backs.”
James’ behavior and comments seem to point to an almost sociopathic state of denial when he claimed that no one gave him grief about his actions except for the paparazzi, who he claimed were “paid” to be critical and stir up controversy. Unfortunately, James’ revision of his own history and apparent inability to take responsibility for his actions are behaviors shared by many American men who ruined their marriages through infidelity. Unless ex-husbands-in-denial can come to grips with their behaviors and voluntarily seek some form of counseling or therapy, there is not much anyone else can do to show them the error of their ways. With an attitude like Jesse James has now, it is not unlikely that he and his new love Kat Von D will be dealing with their own divorce before too much longer.