Going through a divorce can be a stressful and traumatic experience even in the best of circumstances. Emotions can run high when the end of a marriage is negotiated. However, while divorce is never a wonderful time of life, it is also is important to remember it is not the end of your life either. It may seem like it is the end of your happiness or even the end of romance in your life, but it is only the end of one relationship. Your feelings of loss are temporary and with a healthy outlook and some support from your family and friends, things will eventually get better.
The four stages of divorce; denial, depression, withdrawal and recovery all require time and as time passes, the negative emotions and feelings will lessen. Some experts say that it takes one year of recovery to recover from each five year increment of marriage. This means it will require two years before you are no longer suffering negative effects from the divorce experience and have taken steps to move on to make a new life. In the beginning, tit may seem you are stuck and you will never escape the event, but with the passage of time your life will get better. It is important to face the situation and accept your new divorced life. People continue to wallow in misery, live in denial and refuse to move forward will obviously be in recovery a lot longer than those who face facts and get involved in making a new life for themselves.
It is a fact that thousands of people survive divorce and move on to fulfilling new lives every year. It will take time to work through the difficult aspects of a divorce, but you will be able to move on to a new life eventually.
Moving Forward After Divorce:
Don’t blame yourself for everything. It takes two people to get married and two to bear the responsibility for failure.
Accept the fact that your divorce may have negative impacts on your finances and friendships.
Try to set aside your feelings of betrayal and distrust after your divorce.
Learn to handle being single for a while before you jump into another relationship.
Don’t expect other people to make you whole again; you must do that on your own.
You may be angry, sad and depressed in the beginning and it will take time deal with these emotions.
Keep your expectations reasonable and set goals that are attainable in the beginning.
Maintain balance and don’t make big life decisions or big lifestyle changes immediately after your divorce.
Communication with your family, friends and community can be a great help in moving your life forward.
Seek professional help if you are confronted with problems that are too big to handle by yourself.