Rising January Divorce Rates
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, is an author who appears frequently on TV as the “No. 1 Love Expert in the World.” The doctor’s website (DoctorBonnie.com) says that “She works with those considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle.” And part of that fight to increase passion in relationships is contending with the fact that January is typically the month with the highest divorce rate of the year.
After the holidays end and couples in unstable relationships realize things are still the same, many might see the New Year as a chance for a fresh start and a time to end their marriage relationship. However, Dr. Bonnie advises that couples would do better to take some time to consider making up instead of breaking up. As a result, the doctor suggests pursuing unconventional solutions to help jump start the commitment to work things out.
One of the unconventional solutions Dr. Bonnie recommends is having couples try to treat each other like they did at the very beginning of their relationships. This can help them learn to be nice to each other again and to treat each other respectfully like they did when they first met. Another strategy involves breaking up to make up. This means a temporary break up to create a wake-up call to help couples look at new ways to resolve their issues. The doctor warns that breaking up to make up is not supposed to be the end of a relationship, but instead should afford a new beginning. She adds that some couples may need to remember the feeling of experiencing life without their spouse in order to realize how much the relationship actually meant to them. In the end, it comes down to the intent to remain in love and many times that requires making the conscious decision to fall in love again.