Thinking about divorce and need some advice.
HEY MY NAME IS PAULA.. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 12 YEARS NOW. AND WE DO NOT SEE EYE TO EYE.. JUST SEEM TO NOT GET ALONE WITH ONE ANOTHER. BEEMN GOING THROUGH THIS FOR A WHILE NOW. MAYBE SINCE I LOST MY JOB LAST YEAR. I FOUND WORK THIS YEAR IN MARCH. I LOVE MY JOB BUT MY HUSBAND THINKS I NEED TO WORK IN AN OFFICE.??? I AM WORKING AT A DAYCARE RIGHT NOW, I LOVE MY JOB.. BUT IT DOES NOT PAY ME ENOUGH… WE DO NOT AGREE ON THIS EITHER. TO ME A JOB IS A JOB.. BE GLAD THAT I HAVE ONE.. WELL WE HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL GIRLS.. AGES 7 AND 10 YEARS OLD. AND I HAVE COME TO A CONCLUSION THAT I WANT OUT AND I AM NOT HAPPY ANY MORE.. I HAVE FALLEN OUT OF LOVE WITH MY HUSBAND. AND WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT THIS. BUT I JUST WANT OUT NOW.. I AM SO AFFRIAD THAT I MAY BE DOING THE WRONG THING.. OR WHAT OTHERS MAY THINK OF ME.. ME BEING THE BAD PERSON.. THE ONE WHOM WANTS OUT… BUT I ASK MYSELF WHY STAY IN A MARRIAGE IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY. WE HAVE A HOME.. WHICH HE HAD BEFORE I MET HIM. WE ARE STILL PAYING MONTHLY NOTES ON THE HOUSE. WE WHERE SPLITING THE BILLS UP AT ONE TIME.. UNTIL I LOST MY JOB. NOW THAT I HAVE ONE.. I PAY FOR THE SMALLER THINGS.. HE TAKES THE HEAVY BILLS. I HAVE MY TRUCK WHICH IS PAID OFF. HE HAS A TRUCK WHICH HE STILL MAKES PAYMENTS ON TODAY. I WANT TO MOVE OUT AND INTO MY OWN APARTMENT.. BUT I KNOW I CAN NOT AFFORD IT RIGHT NOW. SOME HAVE TOLD ME IF I WAS TO LEAVE MY HUSBAND TODAY,, THAT IF I FILED FOR DIVORCE THAT HE WILL HAVE TO PAY.. PAYU FOR MY LIVING EXPENSIVES…I HAVE NEVER BEEN THROUGH ANYTHING LIKE THIS BEFORE. IT IS JUST SCARY FOR ME. BUT I DO WANT OUT… I WANT IT TO BE OVER IT… I HAVE TALKED TO BOTH MY DAUGHTERS AND TOLD AND ASKED WHAT DO THEY THNK. OR WHAT WOULD THEY SAY IF MOM AND DAD GOT A DIVORCE.. AND THEY SEEM TO BE VERY OUT SPOKEN ABOUT IT.. WE TALK ABOUT LIFE.. SO THEY KNOW MORE THEN OTHER KIDS DO.. I TRY TO BE TRUTHFUL AND UP TO DATE WITH THEM ON DAILY THING IN LIFE. I JUST NEED TO KNOW HOW… WHAT…. I NEED SOM ADVICE.. COULD YOU PLEASE HELP.. AND SO SORRY FOR THE LONG LONG LETTER… PAULA (TX)
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