How Much Does Divorce Cost in Pasadena, CA? The Real Numbers

You're sitting there with a calculator trying to figure out if you can actually afford to get divorced. Maybe you're looking at your savings account thinking "is $8,000 enough?" Or maybe you're panicking because you don't have $8,000 and you're wondering if you can even do this at all.

I get it. The money part is terrifying when you're already dealing with everything else that comes with your marriage ending.

Here's what I'm going to do: I'm going to tell you exactly what divorce costs in Pasadena. Not some vague "it depends" answer. Real numbers. What things actually cost. When you can do it cheap. When you can't. What's going to drain your bank account and what won't.

Because the worst part about divorce costs isn't how expensive it is—it's that nobody tells you the real numbers until you're already in the middle of it and the bills are piling up.

The Short Answer (If You're In a Hurry)

Uncontested divorce in Pasadena where you both agree on everything: $500-$2,000 if you do it yourself or use Divorce.com.

With a lawyer even though you agree: $3,000-$8,000.

Contested divorce where you're fighting about some stuff: $10,000-$40,000 per person. Yes, per person. You're both paying your own lawyers.

High-conflict divorce with custody battles and court: $50,000-$150,000+ per person.

Most Pasadena divorces end up somewhere in the $8,000-$25,000 range per person. That's the reality.

The Court Filing Fee (Everyone Pays This)

The filing fee to start a divorce in Los Angeles County is $435. That's what you pay just to file the paperwork with the Pasadena courthouse.

You can't get around it. Uncontested, contested, high-conflict—everyone pays this.

If you literally cannot afford $435, you can apply for a fee waiver using Form FW-001. You fill out your income and expenses. If you qualify—usually if you're on public assistance or your income is below certain levels—the court waives the fee. Plus any other court fees that come up.

A lot of people don't know about fee waivers. They just assume they can't afford to file. If $435 is the difference between filing or not, look into the waiver. Don't just not file because of it.

DIY Divorce Costs (When You Do Everything Yourself)

If you and your spouse agree on absolutely everything—and I mean everything, not "we mostly agree"—you can file for divorce yourself.

What it costs:

• Filing fee: $435

• Process server to serve your spouse: $50-$150 (or free if a friend does it)

• Copies and notary fees: $20-$50

• Total: $500-$650

That's it. If you're capable of figuring out the California divorce forms yourself, that's all you pay.

The problem? California divorce forms are complicated. There's like fifteen different forms. They're written in legal language. One mistake and the court sends them back and you start over.

A lot of people start trying to do it themselves, get frustrated after three weeks of trying to figure out form FL-142, and end up hiring a lawyer anyway. Now they've wasted three weeks and they're paying the lawyer to fix the forms they already messed up.

Using Divorce.com (The Middle Ground)

This is what Divorce.com is for. You pay a flat fee—$500-$800 depending on which package you pick. They walk you through the California forms in plain English. They make sure everything's filled out right. They tell you where to file and how to serve your spouse.

Total cost with Divorce.com:

• Divorce.com fee: $500-$800

• Court filing fee: $435

• Process server: $50-$150

• Total: $1,000-$1,400

Way cheaper than a lawyer. Way less frustrating than trying to figure it out yourself.

The catch? You and your spouse have to actually agree on everything. Property division. Debt. If you have kids, custody and support. All of it. Divorce.com isn't going to help you negotiate or fight. It's help with paperwork for people who've already worked everything out.

If you're fighting about anything—who gets the house, custody schedule, whether someone pays spousal support—Divorce.com won't work. You need a lawyer or at least a mediator.

Lawyer Costs (When You Need Professional Help)

Pasadena divorce lawyers charge $300-$500 per hour. Downtown lawyers near the courthouse are usually $350-$500. South Pasadena or Altadena might be $300-$450.

You don't just pay the hourly rate. You pay a retainer upfront—usually $3,000-$10,000. That's money they put in a trust account and bill against.

Every single thing your lawyer does gets billed to that retainer:

• Reading your emails: 15 minutes minimum ($75-$125 per email)

• Phone calls: 15 minutes minimum ($75-$125 per call even if it's 5 minutes)

• Court appearances: 3-4 hours including prep and travel time ($1,200-$2,000 per hearing)

• Reviewing documents: $300-$500 per hour

• Negotiations with other lawyer: $300-$500 per hour

The retainer runs out way faster than you think. Then you get a letter saying deposit more money or they stop working.

Uncontested Divorce With a Lawyer

If you agree on everything but you still hire a lawyer to handle it: $3,000-$8,000 total.

This is honestly wasteful if you actually agree. You're paying someone $400 an hour to file paperwork. But some people want the peace of mind or they're scared of messing up the forms.

Contested Divorce (Fighting About Stuff)

This is where most Pasadena divorces end up. You agree on most things but you're fighting about the house, custody schedule, spousal support, or how to divide retirement accounts.

Cost: $10,000-$40,000 per person

Here's what you're paying for:

• Initial retainer and ongoing fees: $5,000-$15,000

• Discovery (requesting financial documents, depositions): $3,000-$10,000

• Court hearings and motions: $2,000-$8,000

• Trial preparation if it goes that far: $5,000-$20,000

• Expert witnesses if needed (appraisers, custody evaluators): $2,000-$10,000

Every time your spouse's lawyer sends a letter, your lawyer responds. That's billing. Every time there's a disagreement that requires a court filing, that's billing. It adds up so fast it'll make you sick.

The longer it drags on, the more it costs. A contested divorce that settles after six months of negotiation costs way less than one that goes to trial after eighteen months.

High-Conflict Divorce (Full Battle Mode)

Major custody fight. One spouse hiding assets. Multiple court appearances. Possibly going to trial.

Cost: $50,000-$150,000+ per person

I'm not exaggerating. I know people in Pasadena who spent over $100k on their divorce.

At this level you're paying for:

• Extensive discovery and depositions: $10,000-$30,000

• Multiple court appearances and emergency motions: $5,000-$20,000

• Private investigators if needed: $3,000-$10,000

• Custody evaluators: $5,000-$15,000

• Expert witnesses (forensic accountants, property appraisers, therapists): $10,000-$30,000

• Trial preparation and trial: $20,000-$50,000+

Going to trial is where costs absolutely explode. Your lawyer bills for every hour of prep. Every day in court. Trials can last days or weeks. At $400-$500 an hour, that's devastating.

Mediation Costs (The Cheaper Alternative)

Mediation is where you and your spouse sit with a neutral mediator who helps you work through disagreements.

Mediators in Pasadena charge $250-$400 per hour. You split the cost. So you're each paying $125-$200 per hour.

Most divorces take 3-5 mediation sessions to work through everything. Call it 10-15 hours total.

Total mediation cost: $2,500-$6,000 split between you

So you're each paying $1,250-$3,000 for mediation.

Then you still need to file the paperwork. You can do it yourself, use Divorce.com, or hire a lawyer just to file what you agreed to in mediation.

Total cost per person with mediation:

• Mediation: $1,250-$3,000

• Filing the paperwork: $500-$2,000

• Total: $1,750-$5,000 per person

Way cheaper than fighting with lawyers. But mediation only works if both people actually want to reach an agreement. If one person is being completely unreasonable or hiding assets, mediation won't work.

What Drives Costs Up (Why Some Divorces Cost $100k)

Kids and custody. If you can't agree on custody, costs explode. Custody evaluations alone cost $5,000-$15,000. Fighting over custody in court can go on for years.

Real estate. If you own a house in Pasadena—especially in South Pasadena, San Marino, or Bungalow Heaven where houses are worth over a million—figuring out how to divide it gets expensive. Do you sell it? Does one person buy out the other? How do you even value it?

Businesses. If one of you owns a business, you need a forensic accountant to value it. That's $5,000-$15,000 right there. Then you fight about whether it's community property and how to divide it.

Retirement accounts. 401ks, pensions, stock options—these require special court orders (QDROs) to divide without tax penalties. Lawyers charge extra for this. If you do it wrong, you pay huge taxes and penalties.

Hidden assets. If you suspect your spouse is hiding money, your lawyer has to do extensive discovery. Subpoena bank records. Take depositions. Hire forensic accountants. This costs tens of thousands.

Spousal support fights. If there's a big income gap and you can't agree on support, this becomes a major battle. Your lawyer needs to calculate what's fair. The other side argues. You end up in court with the judge deciding.

Bad lawyers. Some lawyers encourage fighting because it makes them money. Every letter they send is billing hours. Every motion they file is more fees. If both sides have lawyers like this, costs spiral completely out of control.

Your spouse being difficult. If your spouse wants to fight about everything just to be difficult or because they're angry, there's not much you can do. You're stuck paying your lawyer to respond to every stupid motion they file.

What Doesn't Cost As Much As You Think

Serving divorce papers: $50-$150. Some people think this costs hundreds. It doesn't. Process servers are cheap.

The actual paperwork: If you're using Divorce.com, you're paying under $1,000 total for all the paperwork. Even with a lawyer handling an uncontested divorce, it's usually $3k-$5k.

Filing fees for modifications later: If you need to modify custody or support later, the filing fees are usually under $100.

Hidden Costs Nobody Tells You About

Copy fees. Courts charge for copies. Your lawyer charges for copies. It's like $0.50 per page. Doesn't sound like much until you're copying 300 pages of financial documents. Suddenly that's $150.

Parking at Pasadena courthouse. Your lawyer is billing for their time going to court. That includes the twenty minutes they spent circling looking for parking. At $400 an hour, that's $130 just for parking time.

Long-distance charges on phone bills. Some lawyers still charge extra for long-distance calls. Yes, really. In 2025.

Postage and delivery fees. Lawyers overnight documents to each other. You're paying for it. $25 here, $40 there. Adds up.

Notary fees. California divorce paperwork requires notarization. Usually $10-$20 per signature.

Credit report fees. For financial disclosure you might need to pull credit reports. Usually under $50 but still another cost.

Real Examples From Pasadena

Sarah and Mike (not real names): Married 6 years. No kids. Rented apartment. Some savings and retirement accounts. They agreed on everything. Used Divorce.com. Total cost per person: $700 ($500 Divorce.com, $217.50 filing fee each).

Jennifer and Tom: Married 12 years. Two kids. Owned a house in South Pasadena. Both had jobs, similar incomes. Couldn't agree on custody schedule or who gets the house. Tried mediation—three sessions. Worked out custody in mediation. Both hired lawyers to handle property division and finalize. Each spent about $8,000 total ($2,000 mediation, $6,000 lawyers).

David and Rachel: Married 18 years. Three kids. David owned a business. Rachel stayed home with kids. Fought over custody, spousal support, business valuation, everything. Went to trial. David spent $95,000. Rachel spent $78,000 (less because she qualified for some legal aid). They could've bought a house with what they spent on lawyers.

Can You Get a "Cheap" Divorce in Pasadena?

Depends what you mean by cheap.

If you both agree on everything and do it yourself: $500-$700 total. That's cheap.

If you both agree and use Divorce.com: $1,000-$1,400 total. Still cheap.

If you need lawyers because you can't agree: No, it's not going to be cheap. Plan on $10k-$25k per person minimum for a contested divorce in Pasadena.

People who try to save money by hiring the cheapest lawyer usually regret it. You get what you pay for. The $200/hour lawyer who just got their license probably isn't the best choice when you're dividing a million-dollar house.

But you also don't need to hire the most expensive lawyer in Pasadena. A good experienced family law attorney at $350/hour is probably plenty.

How to Keep Costs Down

Agree on as much as possible before hiring lawyers. The more you can work out yourselves, the less you pay lawyers to fight about it.

Don't email your lawyer every five minutes. They're billing for every email. If you have three questions, put them in one email instead of three separate ones.

Organize your financial documents yourself. Don't pay your lawyer $400/hour to organize your bank statements. Do that yourself.

Pick your battles. Is it worth paying your lawyer $2,000 to fight over who gets the $500 TV? No. Let some stuff go.

Respond promptly to document requests. If the other side requests documents and you take forever to respond, your lawyer's spending more time on your case. That's more billing.

Consider mediation first. If there's any chance you can work things out, try mediation before hiring lawyers for full representation.

Be honest about what you can afford. Tell your lawyer upfront what your budget is. Good lawyers will work with you and tell you when you're about to spend money on something that's not worth it.

When the Cost Doesn't Matter (You Just Need to Pay It)

Sometimes you don't have a choice. You need a good lawyer even though it's expensive.

If your spouse is hiding assets and you know there's money somewhere, spending $15k on a lawyer who can find it might save you $100k in the final settlement.

If your spouse is fighting you for full custody and they're lying about you to the court, you need an aggressive lawyer who knows how to fight back. Your kids are worth the cost.

If you have a business worth $500k and your spouse wants half, you need a lawyer who knows how to value businesses and protect your interests.

If there's domestic violence and you need protection, you need a lawyer immediately regardless of cost.

Don't cheap out when it actually matters. Not on custody. Not on property division when there's real money. Not on your safety.

The Absolute Bottom Line

Most people in Pasadena can get divorced for $1,000-$2,000 total if they actually agree on everything and use Divorce.com or do it themselves.

Most people end up spending $8,000-$25,000 per person because they can't agree on everything and need lawyers.

Some people spend $50,000-$150,000+ because they have complicated situations or they're in full battle mode.

The single biggest factor in divorce cost is whether you can agree or whether you're going to fight. Everything else is details.

If you're reading this trying to figure out if you can afford to get divorced, here's my advice: meet with a lawyer for a consultation. Most do free or cheap consultations. Tell them your situation. Ask them honestly what it's likely to cost. They'll give you a range.

Then you can decide if you can afford it, if you need to figure out how to make it work, or if you need to try harder to work things out with your spouse so you're not spending $20k each on lawyers.

Divorce costs money. Sometimes a lot of money. But staying in a marriage that isn't working costs you too, just in different ways.

You'll figure it out. Everyone does eventually.