How Much Does Divorce Cost in Hampton, VA? The Real Numbers

You're sitting in your car outside Trader Joe's on Towne Centre Way trying to figure out if you can actually afford to get divorced. Maybe you've got $5,000 in savings and you're hoping that's enough. Or maybe you don't have $5,000 and you're panicking about how you're even going to do this at all.

I know. The money part is terrifying when everything else in your life is already falling apart.

Here's what I'm going to do: I'm going to give you actual numbers for what divorce costs in Hampton. Not vague lawyer-speak about "it depends." Real costs. When it's cheap. When it's not. What's going to drain your bank account and what won't.

Because the worst thing about divorce costs isn't that it's expensive—it's that nobody tells you the real numbers until you're already knee-deep in it and the bills keep piling up.

The Short Answer (If You're In a Hurry)

Uncontested divorce in Hampton where you both agree on everything: $160-$260 if you do it yourself, or $589-$2,089 if you use Divorce.com.

With a lawyer even though you agree: $2,500-$6,000.

Contested divorce where you're fighting about stuff: $6,000-$25,000 per person. Yeah, per person means you're both paying your own lawyers.

High-conflict divorce with custody battles: $30,000-$75,000+ per person.

Most Hampton divorces end up somewhere in the $4,000-$15,000 range per person. That's reality.

The Court Filing Fee (Everyone Pays This)

The filing fee for divorce in Hampton Circuit Court is $86. That's what you pay just to file the paperwork.

Can't get around it. Uncontested, contested, high-conflict—everyone pays this.

If you literally cannot afford $86, you can file a Petition to Proceed as an Indigent. You fill out your income and expenses. If you're on public assistance or your income is below certain levels, the court waives the fee.

A lot of people don't know about fee waivers. They just assume they can't afford to file. If $86 is the difference between filing or not, look into the waiver. Don't just not file because of it.

DIY Divorce Costs (When You Do Everything Yourself)

If you and your spouse agree on absolutely everything—and I mean everything, not "we mostly agree"—you can file for divorce yourself.

What it costs:

• Filing fee: $86

• Sheriff service: $12 per person served

• Copies and notary fees: $20-$50

• Master Commissioner fee (if required): $42-$112

• Total: $160-$260

That's it. If you're capable of figuring out the Virginia divorce forms yourself, that's all you pay.

The problem? Virginia divorce forms are complicated. There's a bunch of different forms. They're written in legal language that makes your brain hurt. One mistake and the court rejects them and you start over.

A lot of people start trying to do it themselves, get frustrated after a couple weeks of trying to figure out what a "property settlement agreement" needs to include, and end up hiring a lawyer anyway. Now they've wasted two weeks and they're paying the lawyer to fix the forms they already messed up.

Using Divorce.com (The Middle Ground)

This is what Divorce.com is for. You pay a flat fee—$499-$1,999 depending on which package you pick. They walk you through the Virginia forms in plain English. They make sure everything's filled out right. They handle the filing and service process for you.

Total cost with Divorce.com:

• Divorce.com fee: $499-$1,999

• Court filing fee: $86

• Service: Included

• Master Commissioner fee (if required): $0-$4 (minimal)

• Total: $585-$2,089

Way cheaper than a lawyer. Way less frustrating than trying to figure it out yourself at midnight. And you don't have to worry about sheriff service—Divorce.com handles service as part of their service.

The catch? You and your spouse have to actually agree on everything. Property division. Debt. If you have kids, custody and support. All of it. Divorce.com isn't going to help you negotiate or fight. It's help with paperwork for people who've already worked everything out.

If you're fighting about who gets the house in Phoebus or what the custody schedule should be, Divorce.com won't work. You need a lawyer or at least a mediator.

Virginia's Separation Requirement

Here's something important about Virginia: you can't just file for divorce. You have to be separated first.

If you have kids: 1 year separation required. If you don't have kids and have a written separation agreement: 6 months separation required.

The separation has to be continuous. Living in the same house doesn't count as separated in Virginia.

This doesn't directly affect cost, but it affects timeline. You're separated for 6-12 months before you can even file.

Lawyer Costs in Hampton (When You Need Professional Help)

Hampton divorce lawyers charge $200-$350 per hour. Downtown Hampton near the courthouse are usually $275-$350. Coliseum area might be $250-$325. Buckroe or Fox Hill can be $200-$275.

You don't just pay the hourly rate. You pay a retainer upfront—usually $2,500-$7,500. That's money they put in a trust account and bill against.

Every single thing your lawyer does gets billed to that retainer:

• Reading your emails: 15 minutes minimum ($50-$90 per email)

• Phone calls: 15 minutes minimum ($50-$90 per call even if it's 5 minutes)

• Court appearances: 4-5 hours including prep and travel time ($800-$1,750 per hearing)

• Reviewing documents: $200-$350 per hour

• Negotiations with other lawyer: $200-$350 per hour

The retainer runs out way faster than you think. Then you get a letter saying deposit more money or they stop working.

Uncontested Divorce With a Lawyer

If you agree on everything but you still hire a lawyer to handle it: $2,500-$6,000 total.

This is honestly wasteful if you actually agree. You're paying someone $275 an hour to file paperwork. But some people want the peace of mind or they're scared of messing up the forms.

Contested Divorce (Fighting About Stuff)

This is where most Hampton divorces end up. You agree on most things but you're fighting about the house, custody schedule, spousal support, or how to divide property.

Cost: $6,000-$25,000 per person

Here's what you're paying for:

• Initial retainer and ongoing fees: $2,500-$10,000

• Discovery (requesting financial documents, depositions): $1,500-$6,000

• Court hearings and motions: $1,000-$4,000

• Trial preparation if it goes that far: $2,000-$8,000

• Expert witnesses if needed (appraisers, custody evaluators): $1,500-$6,000

Every time your spouse's lawyer sends a letter, your lawyer responds. That's billing. Every time there's a disagreement that requires a court filing, that's billing. It adds up fast.

High-Conflict Divorce (Full Battle Mode)

Major custody fight. One spouse hiding assets. Multiple court appearances. Going to trial.

Cost: $30,000-$75,000+ per person

I'm not exaggerating. I know people in Hampton who spent over $60,000 on their divorce.

At this level you're paying for:

• Extensive discovery and depositions: $6,000-$18,000

• Multiple court appearances: $3,000-$12,000

• Private investigators if needed: $1,500-$5,000

• Custody evaluators: $3,000-$10,000

• Expert witnesses (forensic accountants, property appraisers): $4,000-$15,000

• Trial preparation and trial: $10,000-$25,000+

Going to trial is where costs explode. Your lawyer bills for every hour of prep. Every day in court. At $275-$350 an hour, that's devastating.

Mediation Costs (The Cheaper Alternative)

Mediation is where you and your spouse sit with a neutral mediator who helps you work through disagreements.

Mediators in Hampton charge $150-$275 per hour. You split the cost. So you're each paying $75-$140 per hour.

Most divorces take 4-6 mediation sessions to work through everything. Call it 12-18 hours total.

Total mediation cost: $1,800-$4,950 split between you

So you're each paying $900-$2,475 for mediation.

Then you still need to file the paperwork. You can do it yourself, use Divorce.com, or hire a lawyer just to file what you agreed to in mediation.

Total cost per person with mediation:

• Mediation: $900-$2,475

• Filing the paperwork: $160-$2,089

• Total: $1,060-$4,564 per person

Way cheaper than fighting with lawyers. But mediation only works if both people actually want to reach an agreement.

What Makes Hampton Divorces Expensive

Kids and custody. If you can't agree on custody, costs skyrocket. Custody evaluators in Hampton run $3,000-$10,000. Fighting over custody in court can go on for years.

Real estate. Hampton real estate varies. A house in Phoebus or near the waterfront can be worth $350k-$600k. Figuring out how to divide this gets complicated.

Military connection. Hampton has a huge military presence—Langley Air Force Base, Fort Monroe area. Military divorces have special rules. Military retirement benefits need special orders. That costs extra.

Business ownership. Hampton has small business owners. Valuing and dividing a business requires forensic accountants. That's $3,500-$10,000 right there.

Retirement accounts. 401ks, federal pensions, military retirement—these need special court orders (QDROs or similar) to divide without tax penalties.

Hidden assets. If you think your spouse is hiding money, your lawyer has to do discovery. Subpoena records. This costs thousands.

Spousal support fights. Virginia calls it "spousal support" (not alimony). If there's a big income gap, this becomes a battle.

Bad lawyers. Some lawyers love to fight because fighting means billing hours.

Your spouse being difficult. If your spouse wants to fight about everything because they're angry, you're stuck paying your lawyer to respond to every motion.

Real Hampton Examples

Chris and Taylor (not real names): Married 5 years. No kids. Rented. Some savings. Agreed on everything. Separated 6 months. Used Divorce.com basic package. Total per person: $292.50 ($499 Divorce.com, $43 filing fee each).

Mike and Jessica: Married 10 years. Two kids. Owned a house. Both worked, similar incomes. Couldn't agree on custody schedule. Did mediation—five sessions. Worked it out. Both hired lawyers just to finalize. Each spent about $5,400 ($1,300 mediation, $4,100 lawyers).

David and Jennifer: Married 14 years. Three kids. David was military with retirement benefits. Jennifer stayed home. Fought over custody, support, military retirement division, everything. Went to trial. David spent $58,000. Jennifer spent $48,000. They spent more on lawyers than they saved during the entire marriage.

Can You Get a "Cheap" Divorce in Hampton?

Depends what you mean by cheap.

If you both agree on everything and do it yourself: $160-$260 total. That's cheap.

If you both agree and use Divorce.com: $585-$2,089 total depending on package. Still much cheaper than lawyers.

If you need lawyers because you can't agree: No, it's not going to be cheap. Plan on $6k-$15k per person for a contested divorce in Hampton.

How to Keep Costs Down

Use the separation period to reach agreements.

Don't email your lawyer constantly. They bill for every email.

Organize documents yourself. Don't pay your lawyer $275/hour to sort bank statements.

Pick your battles. Is it worth $1,500 to fight over the $200 item?

Respond quickly to requests.

Try mediation first.

Be honest about your budget.

When Cost Doesn't Matter (You Need to Pay It)

Sometimes you don't have a choice.

If your spouse is hiding assets, spending $8k on a lawyer who finds it might save you $40k.

If your spouse is fighting you for custody and lying, you need a good lawyer. Your kids are worth it.

If you have military retirement benefits or Hampton real estate, you need a lawyer who knows how to handle it.

If there's domestic violence, you need a lawyer now.

Don't cheap out when it matters.

The Bottom Line

Most people in Hampton can get divorced for $585-$2,089 if they actually agree and use Divorce.com.

Most people end up spending $4,000-$15,000 per person because they can't agree on everything.

Some people spend $30,000-$75,000+ because they're in full battle mode.

The biggest factor is whether you fight or agree. Everything else is details.

You'll figure it out. Everyone does.